TRUTH: Two Roads for Fathers in Rearing Children

God’s knowledge, wisdom and insight are so vast that I can hardly relate. For over a week now, I have been contemplating the role of a father in the life of his child. My wife tells me that I am an all or nothing type of guy. While that is one thing that she loved about me, it also has been a snare for her at times. In some respects, she is right because I am either all in or not, black or white, close to you are far away from you. Life is better defined and simpler for me when I stay out of the middle in favor for either side of the pendulum. TRUTH: Two Roads for Fathers in Rearing Children.

Similarly, God said, “I know your deeds, that you are neither cold nor hot. I wish you were either one or the other!” (Revelation 3:15) God desires for us to be all for Him or against Him. My desire is to be for Him, but honestly, with the sinful nature, I agree with Paul who said, “So then, I myself in my mind am a slave to God’s law, but in my sinful nature a slave to the law of sin.” (Romans 7TRUTH: Two Roads for Fathers in Rearing Children.

This notion of two roads or paths surfaces for fathers in the rearing of their children as Paul speaks to the Ephesians.

Ephesians 6:4

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. (NASB)

Fathers, do not exasperate your children;instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord. (NIV)

And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord. (NKJV)

TRUTH: Two Roads for Fathers in Rearing Children are either hot or cold for God. As Paul instructs fathers, there are two paths or roads that surface – provoking them to anger or pronouncing training and instruction of the Lord. The portion about provoking them to anger really hit me hard, so hard that I had to let it ruminate in my spirit before writing. I had to take a look at myself. Like with many areas of my life, I prefer to reside in the extremes, but I tend to pitch a tent in the middle. God has no room for that. More importantly, my kids suffer from be being neither hot or cold. For years, I taught Sunday School and Children’s Church at my church. That was before my children were born and after. I even had lessons for my kids when there was a lull at my church for kids. I engage them in reading the Word, memorizing the Word and have tried teaching them the inductive bible study method. While I have not been as consistent each Sunday morning in Sunday School, I have engaged them the past four years in daily devotions most days.

On the other hand, I have provoked them to anger by being overly critical. One’s strength can certainly become a weakness. In that light, my penchant for being able to identify what is a challenge, area to work on or weakness has been over developed as it relates to child rearing. I find myself more patient, kind, honoring, less angry, forgetting wrongs and more protecting, trusting, hoping and persevering with my students at school than my children at home. Simply, that is how love is defined in 1 Corinthians 13. God, through people who have traveled this road before me, has encouraged me to change my ways in mid stream. God cares deeply for children and me and me as a father.

Just this week, God challenged me to be more motivating to my kids. Find a positive and accentuate it. God challenged me to find ways to stimulate or spur them on toward love and good deeds (Hebrews 10:24). Deflate or stimulate, those are the two roads for me as a father. I must choose to encourage my children and not discourage them. That is the TRUTH: Two Roads for Fathers in Rearing Children 


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