TRUTH: Husbands Love Your Wives – Sacrifice!

First, there was TRUTH: Submit to One Another out of Reverence for Christ. Then there was, TRUTH: Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. Now, calling all men who are married or who would like to get married. Today is TRUTH: Husbands Love Your Wives – Sacrifice!

It is one thing to quote the bible when it appears that the benefit is all yours, but one’s disposition often changes when the requirement is on you to do something – “For God does not show favoritism. Romans 2:11  From the beginning times up to the 20th century, men have traditionally been the leaders of the families. Culturally, that has been the case regardless of one’s faith or the lack thereof. God never intended men to lead in a domineering fashion. How did God intend for men to lead their wives and families? Like Christ. Let’s read about it and hopefully apply His Word to our lives for change. TRUTH: Husbands Love Your Wives – Sacrifice!

Ephesians 5

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Men, we are called to love our wives. 1 Corinthians 13 has a more detailed list of what love looks like, but if you can commit to the love describe here in Ephesians 5, I PROMISE, your wife will love you like crazy. She will DO ANYTHING for you.

What is the key? How do we make that happen? God, through Paul, states it succinctly. While simple, it is the hardest thing you will ever attempt to do. How do we love our wives? God says, “just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” As believers in Jesus Christ men, we should not be surprised at His response. As Christians, we are called to live life just as Christ did. Consequently, Paul draws the parallel or analogy of men being the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church, His bride and body, and the wife is called to submit or subject herself to the man.

In John 14:23 Jesus said, “Jesus replied, “Anyone who loves me will obey my teaching. My Father will love them, and we will come to them and make our home with them.” What is God teaching here? Love calls for SACRIFICE. The example that we are given is Christ’s sacrificial death on the cross for His church. Jesus said, “Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.” (John 15:13) On earth, wouldn’t you say that your wife should be your best friend; therefore, we should be willing to lay down our lives for her. If she is not, and you call Christ Lord, then, you should be laying down your life for her out of obedience to Him.

When was the last time that you spent an entire month, week, day, hour thinking about how to lay down your desires, wants and YES needs for your wife? WHEN? Men, if we are truthful, we fail mightily in this area. This is why Paul says for women to respect their husbands. It is awfully difficult for a woman, who gives sacrificially much more innately than we do, to respect her husband. When men abdicate the responsibility to lay down his life for his wife, women loose respect for their husbands. The Lord Jesus never failed in His sacrificial giving, I mean loving, of us. To love is to give not to take. We all know John 3:16 which says, “For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” God equates love with giving. God quantifies love by the value of what He gave – His one and only Son. TRUTH: Husbands Love Your Wives – Sacrifice! 

What is your wife asking you to give her that conveys that you love her greatly? If you have been married a long time, I am sure you know. For me, it is two things: 1. time spent with her talking, 2. the opportunity to have a voice, to be heard. Simple it seems, but like most of you, I struggle at the simple that God has called me to do. Wives, just show this to your husband. No need to issue a challenge or a told you so.

I challenge all of us to ask the LORD GOD to work in us to accomplish this, so He can get the glory.

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