TRUTH: Putting on Our New Self – Do Not Grieve the Holy Spirit

In the post TRUTH: How to Put on Your New Self II, we listed the attributes that were reflective of the new self from Ephesians 4. They were the things that we were to do or not do. To remind us, let me give you what Paul outlines as some of those new attitudes to apply to our lives.

Today, after several says of attending to my sin, I am able to write the TRUTH: Putting on Our New Self – Do Not Grieve the Holy Spirit. The reality is that several days ago I was preparing to finish this post, but the Holy Spirit convicted me of this exact sin – grieving the Holy Spirit.

We see the behaviors that the new self or new man/woman should adorn himself/herself with after surrendering his/her life to Jesus as Lord and Savior.

  • v 25 – put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor
  • v 26 – do not let the sun go down while you are still angry
  • v 27 – do not give the devil a foothold
  • v 28 – do not steal any longer, work to give/share with those in need rather than taking
  • v 29 – do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but speak only what is helpful for building up others in conjunction with their needs. Also speak what is beneficial to the listener
  • v 30 – do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption
  • v 31 – get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice
  • v 32 – be kind and compassionate (tender-hearted) to one another, forgiving each other just as in Christ God forgave you

The Greek word for grieve is lypeō which means to

  1. to make sorrowful

  2. to affect with sadness, cause grief, to throw into sorrow

  3. to grieve, offend

  4. to make one uneasy, cause him a scruple

Several days ago, as I began to provide tangible ways to grieve the Holy Spirit, I was halted. I did not have to go far at all because I was the prime example. As I had shared in a previous post, I struggle with dealing with my anger in an effective and sinless manner. I had gotten angry again, but I did not apply what I had written. I did not resolve it quickly. I did not resolve it in a time table before the sun went down. I allowed an avenue for the devil to gain a foothold. I had not lived TRUTH: Putting on Our New Self – Do Not Grieve the Holy Spirit.

As usual, I had gotten angry about something that was insignificant. James’ words were true about why I was angry – it was selfishness masked as fairness. Because I did not deal with my sin then, it led to more sin. The anger was a gateway into disobedience and failing to pray with my family as I normally do. When I failed to pray, I sinned against God because He commands us to pray continually. I allow distance to come between my family. I allowed my daughter to develop or extend some unhealthy thoughts and habits – blaming herself. I was not angry with my daughter, but she thought I was. She had to deal with feeling separated and not in union with me during that time. That is unfair to her and it is a result of my sin. The fracture there and with my wife was not in concert with God’s command and expectations for she and I to be one as husband and wife. Again, I had not lived the TRUTH: Putting on Our New Self – Do Not Grieve the Holy Spirit.

I had made the Spirit sorrowful, offended and grieved because I failed to do what was right and I failed to immediately acknowledge my sin, confess it, repent of it and get back into right relationship with God and man – my family. By the grace of God, He showed me my sin again. He challenged me to stop writing several days ago. He told me to follow 1 John 1:9. I confessed my sin to Him, my wife and then my kids. I shared with them the error of my way as well as my commitment to do better the next time. Experiencing the forgiveness of God, my wife and kids allowed me to live the TRUTH: Putting on Our New Self – Do Not Grieve the Holy Spirit.

I hope this helps you as you consider the ways that we grieve the Holy Spirit who lives in those who have surrendered their lives to Jesus as Lord and Savior. He is always with us. We must take every step to make our abode as hospitable, but more importantly, as holy as possible. That is the TRUTH: Putting on Our New Self – Do Not Grieve the Holy Spirit.


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